A Walk Around The Estate
25th September was the Mid Autumn Festival, the traditional celebration of the Full Moon in the eighth month of the lunar calendar. It is said to be the fullest moon of the year. Families gather, children play with lanterns, and business associates and relatives send mooncakes to remind each other of their love and attention.
I came home from work later than I had planned that evening, at about 7pm. Early enough to walk around our estate with my wife, my son, and his electric lantern before he slept, late enough to disrupt his bedtime. I came home with a Mid Autumn gift for him too, a spaceship made from magnetic tiles.
The pressure has been unrelenting at work the past few days – impossible budgets, management changes, and urgent requests for proposals. I’ve been coming home late and working at night for most of the week after the rest of the family goes to sleep. I had met two old college friends for lunch earlier the same day this Mid Autumn festival (unintentionally), but after rescheduling three times I ended up spending more than half of our lunch on urgent work calls anyway.
But I was glad to have taken time off to grab lunch with the two of them. This lunch was planned nearly 4 months ago when I met one of them at a wedding – a mutual friend had just joined a tech company putting data centres in space with some sweet merchandise (the magnetic tile spaceships), and we had asked her to help us buy some for our kids. Somehow in the middle, life got in the way, and we took four months to meet.
I am grateful this friend came through for us – she must have walked for half an hour lugging two heavy sets of magnetic tiles, searching for the restaurant. “Here are your ‘mooncakes’,” she smiled.
The lunch conversation (when I could join it) revolved around food, family, children, old friends, and AI and how it was taking over the world. I was glad to see my friends well.
As I assembled the electric lantern that night together with my son, my wife remarked that sometimes, I seem more enthusiastic about Mid Autumn Festival than my son. She may be right. I got her to walk in the park with me with lanterns and sparklers the first Mid Autumn after we were married, even before my son was born. I think it’s because I remember the Mid Autumn Festivals of my childhood, carrying paper lanterns lit with candles around the playgrounds and sandpits near my void deck with the neighborhood children, the one night of the year we were allowed to play with fire.
I remember the sky clogged with smoke from children burning paper and plastic at Mid Autumn Festival – a scene that doesn’t happen anymore. Lanterns are all electric nowadays. But this year, we still have the haze, unwelcome, from peat and forest fires in Indonesia. The full moon appeared, for a short while, blurred in the distance by the haze that continued to surround Singapore.
As we walked, my wife tried to take the chance to connect my son with his Chinese roots, teaching him the immortal lines of Su Dongpo:
但愿人长久,千里共婵娟
The estate was relatively quiet this Mid Autumn. The residents’ network had already organized a Mid Autumn Festival celebration the previous weekend, and I guess the kids in the estate had their fill of lanterns, games, and quizzes. My son was there for a short while due to the haze. I had missed it though, as I was at my high school’s 25 year reunion.
Reunions
A reunion with no one going
Our head boy from high school had initiated a 25-year reunion for our batch on the grounds of our old school. Intentionally or not, the reunion coincided with the week of Mid Autumn Festival. It must have been unintentional – proud of our English and colonial heritage – Mid Autumn Festival had never been celebrated in our high school.
But almost all my closest friends from high school I was still in touch with could not – or had decided not – to go.
“Ah shucks, I’ll be back in the Netherlands.”
“I’ll be in the US, but if I were in the country – I would come!”
“My wife’s due around that time – I want to spend that night at home with her and the family instead of out celebrating.”
“I don’t think I can get out of childcare duties that night.”
“I don’t know man, it’s a few months away but I don’t know if I can get off work.”
“The last old boys’ association dinner was terrible.”
“It’s going to be all these people stuck in time 25 years ago right? For those people I want to keep in touch with, I would have been seeing them all these years. These are probably all the people I didn’t see a point keeping in touch with!”
Good points all, and good reasons not to attend.
But I am a sucker for nostalgia and the past, and decided to go anyway. I figured there would probably be enough people that I knew, out of a batch of 400.
And so I found myself on the second storey of a double decker bus on a Saturday evening, headed to a school I had last spent time in two and a half decades ago.
There, I met a revolving cast of friends, most of whom I had not met for one or two decades.
Data Science in Chinese
I had hoped to tour the school archives which had expanded – I was also a young archivist way back then, maybe part of why I feel the urge to document the moment now. But I had come too late for that. The broader school tour was still ongoing, and I managed to fall in with the tour group, seeing classmates and old friends again – many for the first time in years, or decades.
I walked for a while beside D. He was the first in our class to get married, and I had met him with my wife after he returned from his studies in the US – he was in data science, like my wife, and his wife was a colleague at my previous workplace. He was now at a large Chinese tech company.
“How’s things for you and the wife nowadays?” I asked D.
“I’m doing ok, surviving. There’s lots of data science work even with AI, I think my team has still quite a good culture, so I’m still trying to hang in there. My wife’s having a tough time though. Since you left, new management took over, and they’re now at the bottom of Glassdoor rankings. She’s trying to take care of this whole sector all on her own, and hiring has been hard.”
“Oh wow, I didn’t know that it was quite that bad. I heard things had changed, but that’s much more drastic than I had heard. If it helps, my sector was down to me and one other staff at the time, and it has multiplied many times since then.”
“Yea, it’s bad. She’s trying to hire, and the new staff nowadays have so many requirements. I think our generation is more adaptable. Did I tell you that I speak Chinese at work all the time nowadays?”
“Really?! I couldn’t have imagined you doing that! Our Chinese was all so terrible in high school. Could you have imagined doing that in high school two plus decades ago you would be working in Chinese?”
“Well, I wouldn’t have imagined it before I took on this job, but I guess ten years of learning Chinese in school helped. The second day on the job, my supervisor asked me if I could speak Chinese. I couldn’t say no, and it has been Chinese all the way since then.”
“Really impressive – I speak Chinese at home but I couldn’t imagine working in Chinese, the business terms are all complicated.”
“Yea, they are, especially for data science. But you learn and adapt. The most impressive member of my team is this Indonesian guy – he has Chinese heritage but hadn’t spoken a word of Chinese before joining the team. Now he works in Chinese all day as well! And his accent is terrible but he gets his points across.”
“I wonder if R is here today. He said he would drop by a while, but he’s always working at home and taking care of his kid.”
AI and Maths
Later, we ran into R and C walking around the school, waiting in a queue. It was good to see them. We were all in the same class at high school. The last time I saw R was just after the pandemic, and the last time I saw C was at least a decade ago.
R was a lawyer who had followed the crypto boom to Dubai several years ago, and returned with its ebb. Nowadays, he runs a practice from home and is a doting father to a 2 year old. The rest of us – even those close to him – hardly ever see him now.
C was one of the bright lights in our high school class. Mathematics was a big part of his life, and had been since we were in high school. He had represented Singapore in the International Mathematical Olympiad, got a PhD, and taught for a while after. But he was telling us –
“It’s all AI now. People just put a proof into AI, they don’t understand it, but they publish it. No one understands anything any more. You know AI has already solved problems that the best mathematicians in the world couldn’t solve? Now doing mathematics is just like playing computer games, it’s just something you do for fun.”
The conversation returned to school, family, our children of various ages – from two to secondary two. But we were all thinking of directions to take.
R, C, D, and another classmate, S, left before dinner. They had not intended to stay, anyway, and went to our favorite neighborhood mall from two decades ago for their own private catch-up.
Having paid the organizing committee for dinner and wanting to see who else was about, I decided to stay.
Later, I spoke to E, an old army platoonmate of mine and from another class in school. Like C, he had represented the country in the International Mathematics Olympiad, and I remember him taking out sheets of paper in the jungle to work on mathematics while we were on our reconnaissance missions.
Some of our team members used to tease him endlessly until one day he blew up and told us, “If you insult me, you insult Singapore ok?”
We couldn’t stop laughing at the sheer ridiculousness of the outburst in the manner of teenage boys, but there was a grain of truth in it – he was one of the best mathematical minds in our batch. After army, he got a PhD and is now teaching at one of the local universities.
“Hey how are you doing? Good to see you here. C said it’s bad for mathematicians out there with AI, how are you holding up?”
“I am still ok I guess, but much as it’s bad for us, it’s worse for the kids.”
“What do you mean? They should be much more adaptable right?”
“I think, it’s just that, they are just sad. They studied and trained so hard for a world that may no longer exist. We try to help to counsel them and give them career advice, but it’s really on a case by case basis.”
“Yea, it’s tough. I don’t really know what to tell a fresh grad now as well…”
Vampires and Cybersecurity
The formal dinner began with a speech by our head boy and the current headmaster, pointing out the teachers and our former headmaster who had returned. I sat with one of my Mathematics teachers, who had left and returned to the school more than once in the last 25 years.
I was shocked by how young the teachers looked and how old we were now. Most of them probably were in their 50s, which meant that they were only 10-20 years older than us when teaching us. Our old discipline mistress and history teacher could have been mistaken for someone our age or younger.
A, X, and myself ended up talking to our class form teacher, who was a year from retirement and had turned up for the dinner. I remember her as being one of the older teachers in our high school days, to the point when one of my classmates was joking about her being an “ageless vampire” who had uncovered the secrets of high school biology, which she was teaching us.
Working backwards, since she is 64 now, she was 39 when she taught us, or in other words – 2 years younger than we were now.
She was glad to see us and had a copy of the class photo in her handbag to refer to. She seemed vaguely disappointed not to see more of us, and asked about the rest of our classmates. I tried desperately to call R, C, D and S, but I realized that I had lost C and S’s contacts in the intervening decades, and R and D were probably too engrossed in dinner and talking to pick up my calls.
Later, I chatted with A. His index number was beside mine in the class register, and he once gave me a poster of an SR-71 Blackbird for my birthday, with other friends, more than half a lifetime ago. Later, he became a pilot, and now does cybersecurity.
We talked briefly on cybersecurity and his use of AI – “We do use OpenAI and Anthropic sometimes, but they get all your data when you work with them – it’s a bad deal.” – before the conversation turned to the past and absent faces.
“Did you get to see the archives tour?” I asked – he was a fellow history nerd archivist.
“Yes, and they’ve really expanded it. It’s good.”
“Wish I could have seen it. I wonder how the rest are doing.”
“Yea, so many people couldn’t come. You remember M? He was index no. 1 in class last time – I tried his phone number, email and Facebook, but seems that we’ve lost all contact.”
Comrades in arms
“CCA (Co-curricular Activity) picture!”
– An enthusiastic X brought me to a photo taking session with six other members of the same activity. I was a bit embarrassed that despite spending the better part of every Saturday for four of my most formative years with these people, I couldn’t remember some of their names.
But the names came back, and we fell into easy conversation, catching up, exploring new mutual connections that had taken place in the intervening decades, and reminiscing about those not here that day.
“How about K? Where is he nowadays?”
“Oh, he was in the army with me. I think he went to the US for university and never came back, married some American there.”
“No, not an American – another Singaporean that didn’t want to come back! I talk to him every other week now you know – total coincidence – we happen to work for the same fund now and I see him in the same work calls.”
“Small world, huh.”
We talked about other friends and connections, with me accidentally casually insulting one of my CCA-mates’ army buddies that I found out happened to be in my workplace now – apparently he does triathlons, but I thought, like me – he was too fat for that!
Like ships crossing in the night
Occasionally throughout the night, I crossed paths with G, one of my best friends from the first two years of high school before our classes reshuffled. Our paths had actually crossed a few times, his organization has an annual conference that my company frequently features in. I had attended two of these conferences hoping to run into him – but we never met face to face, our work duties brought us to different poles and partners, and we missed each other, like ships crossing in the night. I hadn’t actually seen him for a decade.
“Good to see you again! We’ve missed each other all the time. You know, I heard E ran into you at the last conference, but somehow we’ve never met!” I heard a welcome voice.
G was naturally friendly, and one of the first people to make me feel welcome in a new high school environment when I was just finding my way. Even today, G makes me feel welcome.
“Yes, I remember E! He’s left already right? I heard from him things were complex on your organization’s end. How are things? And how do you know him? I knew him from university, we were in the same course.”
“Oh, we were primary school classmates. And my primary school has a regular Mid Autumn Festival event where alumni and parents can attend. So I ran into him there.”
“Are you thinking of sending your kid there?”
“Yes, if alumni affiliation still works! My parents still stay near there, and so do I.”
I thought of the Chinese heritage schools in Singapore, with their raucous Mid Autumn Festivals we used to both mock and be jealous of, in junior college.
The conversation moved, to work, children, and the joys and tragedies of starting our families.
“Speaking of which, are you still based in Chengdu? You mentioned school in Singapore”
“No, I’m actually taking a sabbatical and moving to Shanghai, where my wife was from, for a while. I’ll be back in Singapore in half a year or so.”
“Oh wow, did you come back just for this?”
“There were other matters to attend to, but I certainly timed it for this week! So things came together well. So many people couldn’t come though, I was just gaming with J earlier today at his place – he skipped this dinner because large events are really not his thing.”
“Oh wow, I remember J, we last met when he was a researcher back from Japan. I heard he’s in semicon now.”
“Yea he’s doing well, the whole sector is booming.”
“I remember J did the art on our Yearbook image for our class. Let’s meet up when you come back for good, ok.”
“Yea, let’s do it.”
Flying fetuses
As the dinner ended, a group of us ended up exploring the block with our old classrooms, dragging our old Mathematics teacher along. I ended up walking alongside L, another friend from long ago.
“Gosh, it’s been so long since we last met. Was it at Y’s wedding?”
“Yea, must be. That must have been like almost ten years ago too?”
“I think so. I wonder how Y is, he didn’t come today. And how are you doing? Are you still running your educational toys business?”
“It’s a long story, but I ended up getting into tech. I was on a contract role but transitioned to a full time job – I basically vibe code for a living now.”
“That’s really cool! I mainly do sales but I’ve been trying to get more into AI, but found it hard to effectively use it for work as well as my own projects.”
“It’s getting better for me now that my company has allowed us to access external models sometimes. My company has an internal LLM but it’s not so optimized for agentic and coding work yet.”
We continued walking across the clock tower, down dark hallways, reminiscing about classes, teachers, and lost chaptehs.
“You know, we rarely stay up at school at this time, unless it’s during a school camp.”
“Ya, you remember the science club camp? Those were fun days.”
“Shoot, you were in science club too? I can’t remember what we did but camp was fun!”
“Yea, and we were scaring the juniors and warning them not to wander too much at night. Something about the ghosts of the flying fetuses at the biology lab that come out at night.”
I never knew whether there were actual fetuses preserved at the biology lab. But it seemed to make sense to a teenaged boy, and sufficiently scary.
Later, a few of us wandered off to the science lab area. The gate to the biology labs was unlocked! Powered by curiosity, we stepped in past the gate, and entered an unlocked lab. Although labelled biology lab, it seemed more like a chemistry lab.
Somebody tripped and fell down on a step, almost spilling his drink.
“Careful!” You never knew what a fall could do at our age.
“Look! The pipettes and test tubes look exactly the same as they did 25 years ago!”
“Smells like the past too!”
“Are there really flying fetuses?”
“Guys, we better step back and put a lid on this.”
“Look! there’s a security camera!”
“Oh no, are the security guards going to chase us?”
The security guards were other boogeymen we used to scare our juniors in the past.
“Look, we are 41, much too old for this. Also, we don’t want to get our old teachers in trouble.”
“Makes sense, but we do have a lot of lawyers here to think of excuses.”
One of the lawyers said something about the door being unlocked and us not being barred from entry – I didn’t really catch the specifics – but we decided to retire to the atrium.
Fame and Notoriety
“Feels like I’ve exactly been here before, on the second floor looking down, but that must have been more than 25 years ago.” I told a friend.
“And we must have been. This is one part of the school where everything looks exactly the same.”
“Do you think this will get redeveloped? For more condos or flats.”
“I hope not – they’ve moved so many schools here, hopefully, they will be here for a while.”
We looked at the lists of historical headmasters, King’s Scholars, Queen’s Scholars and President’s Scholars that were around the atrium.
“Haha, yes, that reminds me – there’s no one from our year. Quite a lot of familiar names from the years before us though, some of them are really quite famous now.”
I realized that the 25 years since we graduated actually took up quite a percentage of our school’s history. Time has really passed.
Outside, we were fathers, husbands, doctors, lawyers, colonels, professors, corporate executives, government officials, or maybe looking for our next big opportunity. Back in school, we were simply goofballs talking about our past, school trips to China, Taiwan and the US, the McNuggets jingle that was stuck in some of our brains from more than two decades ago, and the indiscreet teachers who were caught watching pornography on school computers by students but who somehow kept their jobs.
“I suppose it’s good that all of us are healthy and alive, and none of us got in the news in a bad way. Doctors tend to do that, but nobody from our batch has, as far as I know.” Somebody remarked cheerfully.
I bit my tongue – many of us from the batch of 2001 had certainly achieved some form of notoriety, on both national and international news. But this was not the place to tell these stories; they belong in the news archives.
Under the grateful smiles and the silly laughter, each of us had probably endured and overcome more than we would have imagined ourselves to be capable of in high school, so long ago. But this reunion was not the place for these harder stories. Whatever the misfortunes and adversity that have come our way these 25 years, each of us has gone on living in our own way, as humans do, carrying with us a hope of a better age.
I was glad for this chance to revisit the past after all this time, to see the old friends I never thought to meet, and to see them well.
On the silent bus ride home, I gazed at the waxing moon through the haze and the windows of the double decker bus. My mind returned to Su Dongpo’s words, that my wife would try to teach my son under the hazy full moon a week later:
但愿人长久,千里共婵娟





















